A 2014 Challenge

Earlier this morning, a friend of mine posted an article on Facebook via HuffPost about what NOT to say to a working mom. I see posts like this all the time and, frankly, I'm annoyed by it.

We need to get over ourselves.

We need to relieve ourselves of our guilt.

The reason, in my opinion, we take offense to people saying things like "can't you afford to stay home?" is because we're feeling insecure about something. Be it money, time not spent with our kids, or our personal drive to WANT to work - we get offended over someone else and their mouth.

We seriously need to get over our egos, too.

We just need to not give a shit. Seriously. 

What does it serve us to get so angry about someone's idiocy? People don't aim to be hurtful, so why do we let them get to us? We get all riled up, we let the negativity fester, and then we POP! What does this do? Does it make us a better parent? Does it make us a better person? You can answer those questions yourself.

The same goes for people at work.

A few weeks ago, I did something stupid at work and I aimed to apologize for my idiocy. Still, someone got upset and I feel as though I'm being watched.

We're human. We make mistakes. We do stupid things and we often do them to other people - although usually not intentionally. Rather than confronting the person who harmed us, we take it a step higher. We go to their boss, their boss' boss...etc. We get offended, sometimes without reason. Then we talk. We talk about that person. We label that person who wronged us. Sometimes we set out to destroy them because they hurt us.

For what? Our ego? To heal our wounds?

We need to get over ourselves.

This is my challenge to you in 2014 - stop caring so much about what other people say and do (or write). Don't let their words get to you and, if they do, confront them. Ask them why they chose to say or do what they did. That is my challenge to you.

Change, Honesty, and Idiocy

I came to a realization this past weekend. It wasn't one of those moments where I felt brazen enough to scream "I'm a fucking genius!" - but it was one of those moments where I learned to let go a bit.

As a new-ish Mom, I'm super sensitive to what people say about my kids. When people ask "what are you feeding this kid?!? He's HUGE!" I tend to get defensive because, well, Ori looks like a normal 3-month-old...with a large head (for real, Capt. Cranium -  just like his big brother). I know people aren't saying things to be rude but it's still pretty annoying. 

After that question sunk in a bit, I realized that I'm sick of reading all these articles that try to 'educate' people on what not to say. This is when the realization hit. I came to the conclusion that I can't stop the idiocy that pops out of their mouths but I can change how it makes me feel. 

Change the Conversation

"What?!?" 

Whenever someone says "just wait until they're older - they'll runs circles around you!" I can turn it around and say "I can't wait for that day!!" When someone asks "what are you feeding this kid?" I'm going to say "growth hormones". When someone asks "don't you think you should put a hat on your baby - he's cold!" I'll tell them that he's not cold because he's really dressed as warmly as a polar bear. And he doesn't like hats. For real, he doesn't. I've tried - he cries. It's not worth the fight with either of my kids. 

So, rather than educate people on what not to say (because, let's be honest, they aren't the ones reading those articles - we are...and we get the idea of what not to say), I'm making the decision to not care and not let it get to me. 

Be Honest

This is what "quality time" looks like!

The next time I'm pregnant, and people want to touch my belly - I'll let them because feeling a baby kick is one of the coolest experiences in the world. The next time I'm pregnant and someone asks "are you sure you're not having twins?" I'll say "No, but I wish I was - how cool would THAT be?!" (Better that than saying "No, thanks for making me feel like a whale" - even though that was a close second option.) 

I'm also going to be honest. When someone says "Wow, you look tired!" I'll say "I am - but that's because I was too busy spending quality time with my kids ... at 3AM." Some call it 'fussiness', I'm going to call it "quality time". 

Change Your Perception

It's all about perception, people. Don't let someone else make you feel like shit - especially if you know they didn't mean to. Seriously, don't let their words hurt you. You can't change them but you can change how you perceive their words. So, change your perception and realize that you're the only smart one in a sea of idiots.

Landscaping and Runaway Dogs

Writing is my zen - did you know that? I started this blog as a way to keep our family up-to-date on the life and times of the Glasers. It spawned into so much more! Sometimes we give advice. Sometimes we challenge ourselves. Sometimes we just bitch and complain.

OK, a lot of times we just bitch and complain. And by 'we', I mean 'me'.

At 33 weeks pregnant, I'm recovering from what was one hell of a crappy week. This week is looking SO much better than last week. For starters, my contractions have subsided a bit. Sure, water retention has taken its place but it least I don't feel like baby Glaser is trying to dig his way out.

Also, the dogs haven't made an attempt at running away this week ... not yet, at least.

You see, last week I was having contractions and I was sick. I found myself in the hospital for observation and testing. Right before we left the house, Sparky and Cecil bolted out my front door.

"I did no such thing - I'm perfect!"

Thankfully, my Mom was over and she managed to get them both back inside (with a little help from Craig). Talk about nearly having a heart attack.

Fast forward to Saturday. Craig was watching TV and I was in the powder room getting ready for lunch with the fam. Craig came bolting in asking where Cecil was. Last I checked, he was outside with Sparky. Well, as Craig was watching TV, Sparky came sauntering up the driveway and Cecil was nowhere to be found.

Our neighbors had him, called me, and Craig went to get him.

How'd the get out? They dug their way out from under the fence. WTF!!! We have a fence for a reason and these two figured out how to dig UNDER it.

I like to explore. So what?!?!

Sunday we made our way to Lowes (which is really up the street from us). We needed to take a look at some options that would keep our pups from digging at the fence. Without realizing it, we're starting a new project. We're going to buy a ton of little concrete slabs/bricks to put in front of the fence. It'll create a nice little walk way. We're no0bs when it comes to stuff like this so we're making it up as we go along.

Perhaps that'll keep the dogs from running away. Got any other ideas?

Why Interviews are like Dating

Happy holidays, y'all! I was going to write about Chanukkah gifts today but I'd rather write about something else: the similarities between interviews and dating.

Yesterday I had two interviews. They were both incredibly different in many ways but it reminded me of the days when I was on Jdate.com searching for a nice Jewish husband.

11 Tips for interviewing. Courtesy: Boston.com

When you go on a date you get all dressed to impressed, right? Well, don't you do the same thing for an interview? You dress nicely, make yourself smell better than usual, and you do your hair nicely (maybe some makeup too?) for both a date AND an interview.

When you go on a first date, sometimes it leads to a second date where you relax a bit, show a bit more of yourself to someone. Sometimes that first interview leads to a second where you also relax a bit more and let people get to know you. Still, the amount of first dates and first interviews that amounted to nothing are greater than the ones that resulted in second dates and second interviews.

On a date, there are certain things you try not to talk about: religion, sex, and money. During an interview, there are also topics not open for discussion: family, money, and religion.

See the similarities so far?

Tips on what NOT to talk about on a date. Courtesy: Oprah.com

Here's another one... the "I" factor. When you're going on dates, we have a tendency to sound a little self-absorbed because, well, you have to! The person across from you needs to get to know YOU. The same goes for an interview. They have this sheet of paper that talks all about YOU and then you sit and talk all about you. The "I" factor is amazing in both scenarios because before you can become part of a 'we' they need to get to know you.

There are a lot of sites out there that tell you what to do in an interview (or a date!) and what not to do but I have some friendly advice for you: be yourself. Just like dating, there's a match for you when it comes to employment. If they don't like you, then you shouldn't want to work there. Be yourself and if they don't like it, f*ck 'em. That works in dating, as well!

Gratitude Challenge - Feeling Icky

Hi Fans! Sorry I've been so elusive lately! I'm battling one hell of a flu virus! Saturday, just before lunching with a friend in Jerusalem, I started feeling queasy. By the time we hit the restaurant, I started feeling dehydrated and then it came on... the nausea. I barely got a chance to speak to my friend due to my frequent trips to the bathroom. Before we hit the car, I was nearly on the floor. I'll spare you the details but it wasn't pretty and I am STILL sick!

Since going back to work, I've been sick at least once a month. It sucks and I'm sure my bosses just looooove it. Well, this time, I'm about 2 weeks shy of my resignation date and I have sooooo much work to do but I'm completely side lined by this whole thing.

So, quickly, I'm going to list a few things I've been grateful for the last few days...

• My dogs - because they stuck by my side the ENTIRE time I spewed chunks and cuddled with me endlessly.
• My son - he's so patient and I think he just 'gets it' that Ima's not feeling so hot. He's going easy on me.
• Our Gannenet (day care lady) - she took Yoavi yesterday when both of us were completely out of commission. 
• Grocery shopping online - it allowed me to buy stuff to make chicken soup ... because it's all I can eat.
• Chicken soup and rice - because it's all I can eat.

For your enjoyment, here's Yoav not enjoying his food...

Now tell me what you're grateful for...

Guest Post: 5 Ways to Renew Your Denim Favorites for Summer

Today's post is written by a women I've known for A LONG TIME! I'm pretty sure we went to middle school together - that's how long I've known her! For my gratitude challenge, Day 5, I'm giving her the spotlight. She has an amazing post about DENIM! Since moving to Israel, my fashion sense is a little wonky, so I asked Courtney to come up with some ideas on how to dress yourself properly. I am SO grateful for her and this post - enjoy!

Hi all! It's such a pleasure to meet you! I'm Courtney, founder and owner of Closet Fashion Fix where I offer style tips and tricks to make the most of what you already have in your closet. You can also find me on Facebook where I offer personal style advice to all. A HUGE thank you to Hillary for finding and contacting me!! See you all soon! I'm sure the topic of this post is one that everyone can relate to.  We have all worn an awesome piece of denim at some point in our lives (especially in the 80's).  This summer there are tons of ways to break out those old favorites from your closet or invest in some new.  Here are 5 ways to renew your blues!

Denim Shirt

This is my favorite style to mix and match throughout a wardrobe. The chambray work shirt is an essential piece to any closet.  Layer over a casual tee and jeans or over a floral dress.  Tuck one in to a pencil skirt to make a work outfit laid back.  Show off a great pair of colored bottoms.  Denim can be worn for work or the weekend- that's the best part!

anntaylor.com

More Lands' End...

Denim Jacket

The denim jacket can come in different shapes and styles.  From blazer to biker, the possibilities are endless.  Pair your chambray blazer with bright separates to fight the office chill or put on a classic denim jacket with a girly dress to ground your look.

A classic jean jacket looks great over stripes or with bright denim bottoms.  It is also easy to throw on over a floaty dress.  Preppy chic with a button down is always a classic, too.

More Levi's...

A denim blazer is another way to work in some casual flair to a dressed up look.

More Theory...

Lastly, colored and white jean toppers are a fresh take on an old standby.

More 7 For All Mankind...

Denim Vest

I never would have believed you if you told me denim vests would come back in style 10 years ago.  But sure enough, here they are!  I love the look of a sleeveless denim jacket over a simple tee or dress.  It's an easy way to add a topper without adding warmth on these balmy days.  (Plus, this is a great DIY project for a well loved denim jacket.  Just cut off the arms and you have a new style!)

More Madewell...

Denim Shorts

Don't worry, these shorts are all grown up.  No frayed hems or pocket linings peeking out on these shorts.  The denim short can be worn with sandals or heels depending on how you style them.  With a silk top- strappy heels.  With a slouchy sweater- sandals.  Pairing denim on denim is fun with a pair of white shorts and a denim shirt.

More J.Crew...

(PS. a safe hem length for most is typically 5-7 inches)

Denim Skirt or Dress

No mini skirts here.  The new face of denim is polished and definitely appropriate for all ages.  A denim shirt dress looks great with platform sandals and minimal jewelry.  A denim pencil skirt works overtime with your casual weekend tees or during the week dressed up with pumps and a button down.

More Tory Burch...

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Gratitude Challenge - the Lost Days

First, Happy America Day (as some of my Israeli friends call it) - I hope you're having a fantastic 4th of July and I REALLY hope you're grateful to the men and women who risk their lives to protect your freedom every day. I know I am!

Source: inspirationsofold.blogspot.com via Gin on Pinterest

I kind of missed out on day 3 and almost day 4 of the Gratitude Challenge. Why? Well, I got tired and the lazy side of me took over. Still, I DO want to tell you what I'm grateful for. A little back story first...

Yesterday, Yoav had two doctor's visits that I deemed completely unnecessary. One was a follow up with his orthopedist to make sure his bowed feet straightened out (they did) and the second was a follow up to a follow up with his neurologist. Well, the first appointment (with the foot doctor) was almost missed. I decided to out-smart traffic and I accidentally turned into an area that took me straight to the highway. Yes, I felt like an idiot. Yes, I called my husband for help. He rescheduled the appointment for later that afternoon.

Peekaboo - I see you!!

The appointment with the neurologist was missed but only because I hit major traffic. It takes a half an hour (often less) to get from my house to his office - yet, yesterday it would have taken me 90 minutes. Craig called the office to ask if it was OK for me to be late and they told him 'no', so he canceled it!

Look what I can do!

So, why the back story? First, I felt like an idiot but in my idiocy, I actually got to spend more time with Yoav, which is something I've been CRAVING lately! Second, it gave me more down time - I was actually able to just chill for a bit. So, I am eternally grateful for yesterday!

And what about today... Well, every year, on the 4th of July, my office celebrates the holiday. My bosses are aware that most of us miss being home this time of year, so they always bring in lunch for us. The food wasn't so tasty but the sentiment was really appreciated.

Hi. Why won't you just let me sleep!

I'm grateful for a few other things, too...

• We have great friends - we really do!
• My friends at work because they just get me. It's a rare thing to find.
• My son - but not in the cheesy way - he's taught me humility and patience.
• Hot dogs! I'm really grateful for them because they're very versatile for me when cooking here.
• My freedom...I'm really grateful to have citizenship to two countries in which I'm free. I don't take my freedom for granted - it's truly a gift!

Why do we keep going to the doctor??

So, tell me, this 4th of July, what are YOU grateful for! Keep those positive thoughts comin'!!

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Gratitude Challenge - Blog Hop

OK, before I dive into the blog hop stuff, I promised you - my dear readers - that I would document everything I am grateful for. I promise, it won't be silly things like "I'm so grateful for coffee" even though, right now, I AM really grateful for coffee. I got up really early, thanks to Yoav (and Sparky dog), but that early time meant I cleaned the floors, brought in laundry from the line (that's right! We don't have a dryer), put some more laundry to go in the washing machine, AND I still had time to make my blessed coffee. 

And on to some REAL gratitude...

• I am grateful that last night, as my husband studied for his exam, I got some quiet time to do some work. 
• I am grateful for the foresight I had to cook a kilo of chicken in advance and freeze it - dinner was a breeze last night.
• I am grateful to my brother-in-law for posting so many pictures of my niece and nephews - I miss them - and it reminds me that I'll get to see them in just over a month.
• I'm grateful for my job because I work in a company where the higher-ups still ask for your advice on personal matters like vacation spots to go to and yummy food to eat when dieting (truth!!). 
•  I am grateful to Cecil dog who just wanted to cuddle with me last night.

                  Source: childhood101.com via Kris on Pinterest

I'm also grateful for Karma Media for sending me some cool things to review. Now on to the blog hop...

Welcome to Around the Blogosphere, hosted by Karma Media!

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The purpose of this hop is to help promote each others:

• Giveaways
• Blogger Opps
• Reviews
• Affiliate Links
• Blogger Groups
• Book Tours
• Other Hops/Linkies

All submissions must be family friendly and cannot promote intolerance or hate. Enter your links below, there is no limit to how many you can submit. All we ask for in return is to share or promote this hop, hey it helps you too, remember!!

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10 Money Saving #Wedding #Tips

Wedding season is back in full-swing and with so many friends and relatives getting married, I thought it might be a good time to dust-off some tried-and-true ways to save money on your wedding without skimping on the quality. It's been almost two years since Craig and I got hitched but I remember telling my friends the ways in which we were going to cut costs. Everyone thought we were nuts - until they showed up at our wedding.

Before you set out to save money, talk to your partner-to-be about what you want out of the wedding. Remember that this is YOUR day and it should be a reflection of YOU - but also keep in mind that the important part of the wedding is the bond you create as partners on that day. The party is just the icing on the cake but it's not the cake itself.

Money Saver #1 - do the decorations yourself. We live in the age of the Internet - you can find everything you need for centerpieces and table coverings online! No one needs to spend $10,000 on flowers - there are simpler and cheaper options that can look far nicer than a large centerpiece that will piss off your guests because they can't converse with each other. When all else fails - get ideas from Pinterest!

Money Saver #2 - be unique with wedding invites. Thanks to Etsy.com, there's a plethora of graphic designers out there who will design your invite for you for $10. There is no longer a need to go super-traditional and shell out $5,000 on wedding invites when you can have someone design something unique for you and have it printed for a fraction of the cost.

Money Saver #3 - cut down your guest list. This is the one area where people usually scream NO when ever I suggest it but every wedding we've been to has shown a plethora of people who a) don't want to be there and b) haven't spoken to the bride/groom in over a year. When looking at your list, have some foresight - will you still talk to this person a year after your wedding? If not - it's not worth the invite. People's feelings may get hurt but you want to celebrate your day with people who love you now and forever.

Source: chickabug.com via Barbara on Pinterest

Money Saver #5 - buffet it! In Israel, a serve-yourself wedding is the norm. We've been to a few weddings where we were served and it wasn't really great. The food usually arrives cold and, as a guest, you don't get to choose how much of something you want! Buffets tend to be cheaper but it doesn't always mean it's going to look cheap! Food is the MOST expensive thing you'll have at your wedding but it doesn't have to cost $120 a plate.

Money Saver #6 - use lesser-known photographers. Just because your best friend used Mr. Goldfine doesn't mean he's the BEST photographer! Sometimes the lesser-known people take better photographs because they WANT to capture the best of every moment. It's not just a job to them - your happiness means more clients. You can save a TON of money by using photographers your friends haven't discovered - so, ask around and search Facebook for photographers in your area.

Money Saver #7 - don't hire a wedding planner! If necessary, get a wedding coordinator but most places have someone in charge of your wedding day - so trust them to listen to your wants and needs. Another option: the best man and maid of honor should be able to make sure your wedding day runs smoothly. Make a list of things that need to happen and talk to them about schedules.

Source: weddingchicks.com via
Elizabeth on Pinterest

Money Saver #8 - DIY wedding bouquets and boutonnieres. You don't need to hire someone to do it - enlist your friends or bridal party the flowers together a day before your big day.YouTube has a bazillion videos on how to make these on your own and, I promise, if I can do it- so can you!

Money Saver #9 - use a DJ, not a band. I know, I know... wedding bands are HUGE in Jewish weddings but they aren't all the rage here in Israel. We've been to some weddings with HORRIFIC bands and, personally, I never understood the need for it. A DJ can do the same work without getting in the way.

Money Saver #10 - make the day about YOU!! I know that this was stated above but don't try to out-do your best friend's wedding because it only leads to financial disasters. Make your wedding a reflection of YOU as a couple. Some of the best weddings I've been to were the ones that didn't spend thousands of dollars on flowers but rather spent $100 table centerpieces that reflected the couple's style.

There are few things you should know that will keep you from being a bridezilla - your day will not be perfect. Some things DO go wrong. At our wedding, my mom and stepmom both had food poisoning AND we showed up late to our own wedding due to traffic. I also burst into tears and nearly ruined my make up upon arrival at the wedding venue. The point is, you need to ROLL WITH THE PUNCHES! If you're calm and relaxed, your wedding day will go off nearly hitch-free but if you are bossy and obnoxious, no one will want to deal with you (before, during, or after the wedding).

I know it sounds harsh but the lovelier you are, the more stuff you can get done for a fraction of the cost. Plus, your disposition will help you enjoy your day that much more!

Embracing My Geek Self

Since going back to work after giving birth, I've gone through a myriad of emotions. I'm happy to be back in the swing of things but SO sad not to be with Yoav every day. I mean, c'mon, look at this face:

Tell me I'm not cute...I dare you!

It's hard to be at work when all I want to do is spend time with that little face. He's growing SO quickly! But HE is not what this post is about. This post is about me and how I've gone from hearing bad voices to accepting my post-baby body and mindset.

I used to hear voices and they would tell me "you're not good enough" "you're so fat" "you're going to be a terrible mom". Ever heard those voices before? All I kept hearing was "you're not worthy of anything". Lately, my confidence has risen dramatically because I've been working on the recognition of my self-worth.

Yet, those voices were loud and clear up until earlier this month. What changed? I started taking care of me. I started doing little things like reading for enjoyment; polishing my nails when Yoav is asleep; and I even bought two new kick-ass pairs of shoes. They were little steps that made me feel more human. I realized that for 90% of the time I was home with Yoav, I lived in yoga pants and gym shoes because it was "easy" but, guess what: LIFE ISN'T EASY! It takes effort to live the life you want to live! Even Hollywood beauties don't wake up so beautiful in the morning - it takes work to make them look like they do.

But that's all physical. To me, feeling good on the inside is an active choice we make. You have two options when you wake up in the morning - scowl and be pissed off a the world or recognize that it's a new day and be happy. I choose to be happy. What do you choose? Just like the physical aspects of our lives, the internal feelings take work. You an make a choice to be happy but to find something resembling inner peace, it takes work. Here's what I do to help find my center:

• When I'm in the thick of it and nothing seems to go right - I take a moment to sit, close my eyes, breathe and say "this too shall pass". I don't always say it out loud but I DO say it.
• When I feel overwhelmed, I get up and take a short 5 minute break to do something else.
• When I'm feeling sluggish, I put on some upbeat Motown music and groove to the beat ... as I get stuff done. 
• When I'm feeling down on myself, I repeat this:

I embrace my dorkiness...do you?

When Things Don't Add Up

So, I wanted to do a vlog today but the camera on my netbook wasn't working very well...it made me look like a badly dubbed Chinese movie. Yikes!

Today, Soulful Coaching's I LOVE MYSELF project launches and I am SO excited and really nervous! I spent a lot of working on the project for Joanna and part of me feels like I failed a little. I didn't get the numbers I wanted - and while the numbers of  participants look 'good' they aren't good enough for me...which makes me feel like I'm not doing my job well enough.

Ever felt like that?

I never really felt like this as a hair stylist but when I entered 'Corporate America' I started feeling this way all the time - and it sucks! It's definitely a paralyzing feeling and it can kill your entire week/month/quarter. It's what I call a 'Soul-Sucking Feeling'. I'm sure you can guess WHY I all it that. It sucks the life out of you and leaves you paralyzed.

In business, there are always multiple factors as to why we don't reach the numbers we want. For instance, I have 67 fantastic joint venture partners for Joanna's event and some of them amped up the volume on their social media but others sent out two or three tweets for the project in early May. It made a tiny (ok - itty bitty) buzz but not much else happened. Other people sent out emails to their communities - but not necessarily on days that would be 'high traffic' days. Yet, there are other factors involved. The day-long event is held on a Tuesday - is Tuesday the best day for an event like this? We will only know through trial-and-error.

From my end, everyone who told me what they could do - did it!  When I asked for more help, they responded with a YES! So, I'm not a total failure but I learned A LOT on what I would do next time ... and what I won't do.

The most IMPORTANT lesson I learned from this is how to shake off the negative feelings. When my graphic designer backed out (last-minute), I sprung into action and created the eBook myself. I literally gave told my negative feelings to f*ck off because I didn't have time for the bullsh*t. With a child who doesn't want to be put down and an eBook to put together, I did not have the time to mess around!

The next time your negative thoughts of "I'm not good enough" start creeping about - you have a choice to make. Prove them right or prove them wrong. I prefer to prove them wrong.

Try this...

Source: loseweight-safe.com via Lindsey on Pinterest

Taxes and Negative Sh*t

I'm normally a VERY happy person but c'mon chevre (friends) - I can't be happy ALL THE TIME! I live in an odd paradise where it's sunny and warm for 70% of the year and just sunny 80% of the year - can't be bad, right? Well, as infuriating as this country can be, it also has something that is lacking in some parts of the US - FRIENDLINESS!

For the past seven weeks, I've been trying to get my taxes done through my accountant back home. That's right, seven weeks. That's how long it took her to get back to me to say "Sorry, I can't do it". She led me on for seven weeks. She said my taxes are "too complicated" ... so I turned to a nice New Yorker here in Israel. (He may not actually be from New York but he sounds like it) His name is David Brand and he's an awesome accountant. He did what my accountant was supposed to do in only 10 minutes. I spent 10 minutes with him on the phone and my taxes were basically done. I also asked if my taxes were hard and he said "not at all!" Apparently, since I don't own any property, have less than $10,000 in my bank account, and have no investments - my taxes were easy! Plus, I filed as married but separate.

After the balagan (think: mess) with my taxes was finished, I returned to my happy place and Yoav gave me a little reminder that even when I feel horrible and I feel like all I do is f*ck up, he's there to remind me that I did something right with my life.

In truth, yesterday was a hard day. Yoav was sick all day, our landlord had someone come look at the apartment (which meant I had to clean - like REALLY clean), and I had the I Love Myself Project to worry about. It was hectic! My day was filled with meetings and I wasn't even at the Optimax office! Yeah, I felt guilty about taking the day off but Yoav was sick and couldn't go to daycare. With no one to watch him, I had no choice.

Every once in a while, the negative thoughts creep in and here's how I handle it...

It's the truth ... and also kinda funny

                                                                            Source: Uploaded by user via Jeanette on Pinterest

• I repeat "I am not a f*ck up" several times
• I look for alcohol ... only to realize we don't really keep it in the house
• I look for chocolate ... and eat yogurt instead because don't really keep chocolate in the house either

But, for real, I repeat "I'm doing the best I can do today" over and over again - several times a day. If I let someone down, it happens. I'm not perfect. Sometimes a little yehiyeh beseder (it's all good) goes a long way for me.

What do you do to remind yourself that everything will be OK in the end?

                                                                  Source: spirituallythinking.blogspot.com via Jessica on Pinterest

Since it's Thankful Thursday, here are three things I'm grateful for today...

• My new "project" at Optimax - I get to solve marketing problems and organize sh*t
• Craig's patience - he's busy as hell right now and he's still patient with me
• My parents - they almost always take my phone calls just so I can tell them how I didn't screw up that day

What are you grateful for today?

Matzo Ball of Nerves

I have so much running through my head that it's hard to get it all down on paper... or computer... but I'm gonna try.

First, I'm sorry for not posting more. Things have been hectic and every time I go to write something, I lose my train of thought only to come back to the screen and think 'who the hell would want to read this?!?!' So, I delete what I spent 20 minutes writing and move on with my day.

Second, I have to admit something - I'm nervous. There is literally SO MUCH going on that I'm feeling slightly overwhelmed and completely unmotivated. What's going on? Well, Craig has A CRAP LOAD of school work that keeps piling up and at the WORST time, too! He has about a month left until he's done with university and then he has another month of finals. Plus he has work. Then there's me... I start my day job again on Sunday. I've been gone for four months and I feel like I'm going to be so displaced and disoriented that I'm going to hate my first day back at work.

Did I mention my first day is also my first Mother's Day as a Mom?

...and it's Craig's birthday.

I'm feeling guilty and I'm filled with anxiety - all the things Amber Rosenberg warned me I would likely feel. (Amber's a really awesome life coach that works her magic with mommies like me - ambitious, enthusiastic, career-oriented, and guilt ridden that we are all three of those things.) Yet, staying at home is not an option because we can't afford it. Plus, I like having something to go to every day.

Still, I spent the week being both excited and nervous for next week. What a lovely way to spend my last week off-the-job and on maternity leave... I wasted it worrying about a job I'm going back to next week. Anyway, I also spent a few minutes crying today because I don't get to hold or cuddle with Yoav as often as I like. He's been really clingy today and I really enjoy it. It makes me sad that I haven't been able to do it more.

Now, add hormones into this mix and you'll have a recipe for one f*cked up new mommy. Someone pass me a cocktail... please?

To add insult to injury, little man has developed a new habit of crying for his pacifier in the middle of the night... multiple times. This leads to me getting up, giving it to him, and crashing in his room because I'd rather walk three steps to his crib than get out of my bed and wobble over to the next room 8 different times.

I'm a ball of nerves. I'm a matzo ball of nerves - slightly messy, soft to the touch, and easily broken into pieces. Yup, I'm definitely a matzo ball of nerves. I'm not so open about my feelings, I've been keeping them bottled inside for a few weeks - it's easier to let Craig vent than to add to his frustrations with my mess. But this matzo ball is over cooked...so there's my rant.

Deeeelicous!

I will say this: I am SO GRATEFUL for today and Yoav's clingy-ness. I needed it.

Welcome to the World

It's been a while since I posted something personal but I have a good reason .... I had a baby!! Allow me to introduce Yoav Rubin Glaser. Our son was born on February 2nd, 2012 via C-Section after 55+ hours in labor. Isn't he cute??

I love Kermit the Frog!

Go Blue!

Yoav is already a half-month old and he doesn't even look like he did when these pictures were taken. It's insane how different he looks every day. So, ready for his birth story?

On January 29th, I went in for a routine weekly OB/GYN check up. After another fetal monitor and blood pressure check, I was sent to my doctor so he could see the results. The verdict: go to the hospital ASAP! Apparently, I was experiencing hypertension and he wanted the hospital to induce labor. So, off we went.

At the hospital's pregnancy ER, I underwent another fetal monitor exam and blood pressure check up. I was asked if I was experiencing any headaches, blurry vision, or tummy pain. The answer: I have a sinus headache from the rain. So, off I went to the regular ER where I waited an hour to see a neurologist. In my opinion, if you make someone wait an hour to see a neurologist, they may as well be dead. If I had any real neurological issues, like a stroke or something, I would have died waiting to see someone. Yet, she gave me a clean bill of health and even wrote out that I know a sinus headache when I feel one. She then sent me to the ophthalmologist to make sure everything was OK before sending me back to the pregnancy ER. The verdict: I was A-OK in the head and eyes.

After realizing that I was OK, the doctor on staff said he'd like to admit me to the high risk ward and he was recommending inducing me. Why the recommendation? Because he doesn't have the authority to decide if I should be induced. Nearly 18 hours later, I was told by a doctor I was being induced. The problem? I was having my own contractions and they wanted to wait and see if something happened naturally. Another 15 hours went by before they gave me my first dose of pge2 (the induction pill). I have never felt pain like this before!! It got really bad and then it stopped. Since my contractions were so bad, the doctors decided not to give me another dose of pge2 eight hours after the first dose. They thought my cervix would dilate on its own. It didn't. My contractions stopped. I was given the second dose over 24 hours after the first one. It did nothing. Eight hours after that, I was given a third dose. That did nothing, too. Then I started contracting on my own, again. And quite badly.

The big problem? I wasn't dilating. After three doses of pge2, nothing was happening!! The next day, a doctor that I refer to as Dr. Nice Guy came by and told me that he wanted to try dilating me using a balloon. At this point I was in tears because I had been examined vaginally so many times that I was in physical pain from my auto immune disease. Plus, as a survivor of sexual assault and rape, I don't exactly want someone I don't know touching me. I clam up. At one point, one examination was so bad and painful that I cried uncontrollably for an hour into Craig's chest and he made it very clear to the nurses that this doctor is NEVER to come near me again. I was then given a sedative and I drifted off to sleep.

Anyway, after two failed balloon attempts, Dr. Nice Guy went to speak to the head physician (the Dean) and I was told they were going to send me to labor and delivery where I'd be given Pitocin and an epidural! Once the epidural kicked in, I don't remember much else about that day. I slept a lot. At some point, another doctor came in with Dr. Nice Guy and I was given two options: give the Pitocin another two hours to see if I dilate or have a C-Section. After about five minutes of discussion, I told them to get the kid out of me. Another two hours of Pitocin wasn't going to do anything since I was no more dilated five days into my hospital stay than I was when I walked into the hospital.

At 8:35pm, on February 2nd, I gave birth to a very loud little boy. The next day, he was taken to the NICU for jaundice. The nightmare continued. He was there for five days and they were the longest five days of my life. The State of Israel takes this stuff VERY seriously- especially since it was my blood that caused the issue. We have an ABO blood incompatibility. By February 7th (the day I was supposed to deliver ... and a day after my parents arrived), we took our gorgeous little boy home. He's been given a clean bill of health by the Dean of the NICU and by his pediatrician!

DIY Dog Smell Removal

My sister says I'm "nesting" - I don't fully buy it. I like to use the word "prepping". I'm preparing for the arrival of our parents. I know it's only January 25th and I won't see my in-laws until February 10th but I will see my parents on February 6th ... which means I need to de-dander my couch. Even though my dogs smell nice and pretty (they get baths on a regular basis), my couch does NOT smell nice and pretty. Add a few layers of other people's animals to it and you can see why my couch sucks. We "inherited" the couch from our previous landlord who told us to keep it when we moved out. But she sold the place before we could move out and we're still here. Craig won't throw out the couch because we won't be here for much longer but the thing is gross and smelly. To make matters worse, my apartment is old and no matter how much cleaning gets done, it always looks dirty.

Nesting???

 So, maybe I am nesting. What of it??? Just kidding. I'm still on bed rest so my energy is low but I successfully reorganized a closet today. Why? I wanted a place to put my winter blankets that usually wind up on the couch covered in dog hair. I'll admit, it was a little cathartic. A little. Yet, I still feel like there's more work to be done. Since my Dad is allergic to the dogs, I'm trying to keep the house as dust-free and pet-dander free as possible in anticipation for his arrival. This will be tricky because my dogs LIVE on the couch. We never really taught them not to get on the couch because we actually enjoy cuddling with them there. I can't cover my couch in plastic so I'll do the next best thing and Google "how to get dog smell out of couch".

No nudity on this blog!

Ya know what I found? A lot of nothing but I did find a few quick solutions that will work wonders when done consistently over time. The first set of pet smell removal solutions involves white vinegar, water, lemon juice, and baking soda ... just not all together. That would be so awkward. According to GetSmellOut.com, I can even use vodka as a short term solution for getting rid of pet odor.

I've decided that since I'm home, I'm going to try out a new DIY segment on the blog... it'll be dedicated to the methods I use to get rid of the smell of my pups. My first step, asking you what you do to keep your house smell-free. So, what do you do?

I think my next step will be taking 1 cup of baking soda and 4 drops of lavender oil - sprinkling it all over my couch, then letting it sit for an hour. Then I vacuum it up. It's supposed to take up all the moisture and kill the dust mites.

Step 3 will be to take a bottle of vodka and drink it, and spray my couch with it. Let it dry then vacuum again.

Save for cleaning or save for later??

Step 4 will be to mix equal parts lemon juice and water into a spray bottle, spray it on my couch, let it dry and ... you guessed it, vacuum.

This might lead me right up until my Dad gets here which means I'll re-do step 2 (baking soda and lavender).

OK... maybe I am nesting.

Reflections and Resolutions

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 Does anyone else feel like this was the longest.month.ever? I do and I'm physically exhausted! New Years isn't really a holiday here but you know what is? The Silvester. In Belgium, it's called Sint Sylverster Vooravond or Saint Sylvester's Eve. In Israel, it's an excuse to party. Since the State of Israel doesn't go by the Christian calendar, New Years goes by somewhat unnoticed by a lot of people. We also have our own "New Years" which takes place in September. Yet, as my boss reminded me on Thursday, SOOOO many people are going to have a hell of a hard time waking up on Sunday for work.

Anyway, I thought I'd take a few moments to reflect on the last year - just as any good blogger should. In 2011, I enjoyed my first year of marriage, (finally) graduating from university, and finding out that I'm gonna be a Mama in 2012. I also watched my grandmother pass on to another life - I feel blessed that I got to spend that time with her and that she died knowing her family is still expanding. I welcomed a new nephew to the brood in October and learned that my baby will have a few new cousins popping in after him in 2012. This past year brought us visitors from all over the world - friends from Canada, the U.S., South Africa... as well as much-needed visits from family members. The past year brought both good and bad, happy and sad, but most importantly, it reminded me the true meaning of family.

So, what does 2012 have in store for the Glasers? Well, baby baby baby baby baby, for one. Yup, still on my brain and he's kicking up a storm as I write this. We'll have more visits from family members including my in-laws (really excited to see them!) and my parents (also REALLY excited to see them!). I'll have 14 weeks off to bond with my baby and prepare for our upcoming move to the US. I'll be starting grad school (g-d willing!) which means I'll get to devote my time to studying the Holocaust. We'll watch a few more of our friends marry their beloveds and enjoy the chaos that IS married life. 2012 will be our best year yet! Craig will be finishing school (YAY!) and we'll be closing (or maybe bookmarking?) a chapter in our lives as we leave Israel.

Everyone has New Years Resolutions and I thought long and hard today about what mine should be.

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Not my list ... but it should be.

So, here goes:

• Spend more time enjoying what's left of this pregnancy. This is the ONLY time where I'll experience pregnancy in a foreign country and without other children running around.
• Accept myself and my body for what it is (and what I am). Truly understand what my body is capable of. Being pregnant has helped this but no more crazy diets - just good food and lots of activities.
• Make more of an effort to bond with my husband. I won't lie, this last year has been hard and I need to remember to spend more time with him, even when I'm battling something on the inside.
• Cook more... and not just because I want to remain frugal. I'm getting bored in the kitchen lately so it's time to shake things up.
• Work less on the things that I do just to make money and work more on the things that I love to do...like facilitate Women on their path to being better.
• Ask for help more often. I'm not SuperWoman - I need to stop going at things alone.
• Take time to rest. Being exhausted is no fun.

What are your New Years Resolutions for 2012? 

My recommendation:

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Happy New Year - from the New Glasers!

House Hunting and Shopping

Wow, it's been a hectic week and it's only Tuesday! Can you believe it? So, Craig and I have been debating about our couch. By now you know that we're moving back home this summer so the idea of getting a new couch, even just a cheap loveseat , seems a little crazy. Here's the thing - I hate my couch! The stupid thing came with the apartment and it's smelly. It smelled from Day 1 and there's nothing on earth that will rid us of this crappy smell. So, we're stuck at a cross roads - get a new couch or not...

Either way, we're saving up for the things we REALLY want and I'm lucky that I'm Internet-savvy enough to find really great stuff on places like Become.com. We've been talking a lot about what we want to fill our house with. We're minimalists but we want a big ol' backyard for the dogs. A backyard means lots of grass and a lot of grass means we need something like a lawnmower. Since Craig is South African, he's not quite used to the idea of one of the cheap riding mowers. In truth, I never had one growing up but my neighbors all did!

So, the idea of buying one of the cheap riding mowers got us thinking about all the other stuff we need to fill the backyard with - a tool shed, a garden, stuff to put in the garden, perhaps a garden gnome ... and we've gone from minimalist to extravagant! Plus there's still stuff we need to fill the house with!

We're a little nervous about eventually buying our own home. Right now, we have a little more than just a cheap loveseat and some book cases but when we move, we don't want to out-do ourselves. We're both worried that this move will turn us into the people who want to keep up with the Jones' instead of people who want to be frugal. At least on Become.com - we can price shop and compare models before we buy! It makes life SO much easier!

What makes your life easier when shopping for things for your home?

No Spend Month - Day 13 - Food Challenge

So, today is officially Day 13 and here's what I can tell you: we haven't run out of money yet! Whoo hoo! Granted, it's not much but it's something!

This weekend, instead of going to the grocery store for a big shop, I'm opting for a little shop. On my list:

• Milk
• Cheese
• Bread

That's it. I want to spend as little as possible because next week will likely be a BIG shop! My cousin Jillie will be staying with us for a few days and I want to save my money for her visit!

I'll be honest, our cupboards are looking a little bare. What's a girl to do! Turn to Pinterest! For the next few days, I'll be winging it and utilizing some of their awesome recipes! We have pasta, veggies, shredded cheeses, barley, rice, quinoa, cream, and some other "random" things. We also have flour (OK, A LOT of flour), eggs, Nutella, and lots of stuff to bake with. I am going to do my best to use up what we have before I buy more.

Sounds like a plan, right? Good g-d I hope so!

On the docket for the rest of this week:
Roasted Brussels Sprouts
Corn and butter
Sweet potato soup with garlic toast
Nutella muffins
Blueberry oatmeal bars
Potato wedges
Baked Barley Risotto
Cheesy Rice
Chicken finger wraps

I know, it leaves a bit to be desired without a lot of protein. But if we can get away with NOT spending this weekend, then the sacrifice is worth it! I'm sick of buying stuff at the grocery store when I don't plan on using it for a few weeks. This will give us a chance to use up what we have before we buy more.

I know I owe you a BIG BIG BIG update and I promise you'll get it. I'm even planning a tutorial on how to make Latkes for Hanukkah... so stay tuned!